5/28/2008

kids will also be jealousy?

Jealousy is compared with others in the process, find themselves in skills, reputation, status or treatment, the enjoyment of such areas than others and have a emotional state. Such sentiments are complex, shame, anger, resentment, and so on a combination.
kids with jealousy? » Some people think that such a small child less likely.
In fact, scientifically proven, jealousy as a mental activity is very early. It was conducted experiments on 15 kids, if the mother in front of his face have other kids, he would respond in some way have to let other people have put aside their mothers and mothers closely Louzhu, like: " This is my mother, not you. "
We found life, a good number of situations so that kids can have jealousy.
For example, home to the other kids, his mother said Qinne Kuazan a few words or more, their kids would envy, foreign kids to take to the unfriendly attitude. ]
If the other kids what fun toys, not their own, the heart will Buhao Shou.
Two kids playing games have been good, others see a child in the Da Jimu ride faster and better, but its also revealed how bad he was very anxious, even the building blocks of the two people are pushing, "I ride well, You should not even think about Dacheng! "…… If we carefully observed, many such examples. This shows that in every child was jealous, have different levels of response.
Now the city is a big family kids, as the day Zhongxingpengyue general, many kids are infected with the "Concubine", "arrogance" of gas and not allow themselves better than others, nor Yuanting praised others, jealousy Has become a more serious defects.
Jealousy is a low-level emotion. Ji Duxin have kids, often accusing others love, or to find ways to let others than their own.
Some kids will gradually become eccentric character together. The growth of these kids is harmful.
As a parent Once a child has jealousy, should be timely to help.
First of all, to prevent the formation of early childhood jealousy.
To achieve this, parents usually have to be more concerned about their kids and pay attention to the Shan Guangdian found on him, timely recognition and encouragement.
During this period the parents of the child's recognition, praise be appropriate and not overly exaggerated, it should be objective and realistic. Praise and criticism of the combination. Not only for kids has been achieved, but also pointed out that there are deficiencies, so as not to become complacent because of blind kids and to "not allow others more than himself" mentality.
Secondly, the general award-winning kids see other kids, often heart will not Haoshou, parents should pay attention to this emotional guidance, that is, transfer of the kids's attention, with a positive sentiment to dilute and replace the feelings of hurt . For example, parents to accompany their kids chat with gentle words, to encourage attention to the kids to imply that that their hopes.
Then the parents can not use provocative language, "how people can do a good job, you Zhenben" and "Mo Chuxi" and so on.
Because then the child is already Duhuozhongshao, listen to these, it is undoubtedly fuel, not only to encourage fragmentation, it will increase the child's psychological Converse.
Ji Duxin have kids, most of a sense of inferiority, did not feel that they have any desirable places, only know that envy the strong, self-inflicted psychological to the internal friction.
Therefore, parents pay attention to cultivating kids's self-esteem, self-confidence is necessary.
In addition, parents should also train young kids to develop tolerance, Houdao, friendly, and so the quality of mental health, child care with an open mind to learning other people's merits, Bujiaobuzao, so the child's life will be good.
Third, to have a jealousy of their kids to do the work. Parents can give their kids talk about how other kids are successful, they usually is how the effort. To prevent their kids only to see others get a reward, to the neglect of others to pay the labor process, which should prevail everywhere, in everything he as the center, jealous love, not the kids, parents have to severe criticism, to recognize mistakes, rise Catching up. To prevent the kids from grief, Ziqi, attacks and other adverse psychological impact

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